| | This is from the book "datable" by justin lookadoo... listen and learn my friends!!
So guys, help! We are responsible here. Think about what you're saying. You really know that it won't last, so don't pretend. what you are doing is emotional abuse. Don't manipulate a girl by purposely saying things thats she will misunderstand. Guys, you know that a girl who is crushing on you is going to hang on every word you say. She is going to build a fantasy romance, leaving her vulnerable and willing to do whatever she can to make it work with you. So you take the pureness inside of her, expose it, twist it, and force yourself between her imagination and her dreams. Then you rip it out, use it, destroy it, and leave her to pick up the shattered pieces. All the while, you knew you didn't believe all the stuff you said. You just said it.
STOP! Don't tell her you love her. Don't tell her you want to be with her forever. It's not cool, even if that's what you think right now. Because you're abusing her emotionally if you do. As men, we have been given a responsibility. Take it and be a man.
The guy is in charge of the relationship. You can't let it get blown out of proportion into this "forever-and-ever" thing. Be careful with her heart. Protect it like a mighty warrior. Don't let anyone damage it, not even you. You are the protector.
Some guys who are reading this are saying, "That's not me! I think it's gonna last because I love her. The way I feel is amazing. She is the one." Okay, I'll give you that. You do feel like it will last forever, so let's talk about that feeling. You can't eat, you can't sleep, you get butterflies in her presence, your palms sweat. You feel like a total dork and it feels great. Newsflash for you: This isn't love. It's somebody besides your mom thinking you're cool. And it's an amazing feeling. Don't get me wrong, I dig it just as much as you do. But don't confuse the feeling with love. Love doesn't feel all mushy. Love isn't sweaty palms and sleepless nights. Love is a decision you make to care for someone no matter how you feel. If they are disfigured in an accident or throwing up for hours on end, you will still love them.
This is way important to understand because I want you to cherish your relationship for what it is-- an amazing sign that you are accepted. Your relationship means you are special. You know that because someone who doesn't have to care about you does. Let's not bash that. It's part of what gives you confidence and makes life exciting. But it isn't love. Have fun knowing you are lovable. Enjoy the acceptance of a non-family member, but remember, it's not love yet.
it's just a great feeling that you can enjoy for now.
The question becomes: Will it ever last? Yes! Don't worry. You will find someone that God has designed for you. You will find that soul connection you desire. Right now we're just talking about your teen dating years. The rules totally change lateron in life when marriage stuff comes into play. But until then, remember that it will not last.
I hope you can see that by believing the truth "It will not last" you are not being exiled to a wasteland of the unDatable. Actually, it frees you to experience unimaginable excitement and control and sets you on track to being intensely Datable.
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| | Posted 9/26/2006 6:23 PM - 22 Views - 8 eProps - 7 comments
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